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[cybermule]

We have the legal wedding in slightly over a week. Everything is fine with this. I'm not really bridezilla material, and this feels more like a job interview - good things will come of it, but right now boxes need to be ticked and so on. Roll on the May shenanigans, in my opinion. But the dress is nearly made and goddam gorgeous. It has been accessorised and ably cosmetically enhanced by the skills of the wonderful ninneviane. Nibbles are bought, flowers ordered, and my man apparently looks right hunky in his outfit :)

Presents are proving to be a chore, though. And I say this in the full knowledge that I probably sound like an ungrateful git. We'd originally said no pressies (really, we have enough plates :)), then conceded either charity donations or contributions via Amazon to a new TV. But that ain't working for the in-laws. Oh no. Firstly, they don't want to give to charity, because they already do that. Really, I don't see what difference it makes where your money lands after it's left your bank acount but each to their own. Unfortunately, plan B isn't working for the either. Apparently there are things in our house that aren't as good as they should be, and so we should (psychically) guess what they are and ask for replacements.

This pisses me off righteously, to be honest. Firstly, it's patronising. We aren't short of cash, ergo it's likely that our lack of relentless consumerist upgrade is due to the principle that if it's not bust, we're not going to fix it. The sofa has been cited as an example - it's a practical, reasonably attractive, and a mere 8 years old. But apparently not comfy enough. I'm not having a problem, to be honest. I find sitting up straight helps.

But seriously, I'm at a loss here. We've managed an IKEA voucher to upgrade the offspring's room as one suggestion. But really,Ｉ　so lack need that this is becoming a struggle :(

Comments

[lengths.livejournal.com]

random thought, find out what a random homeless hostel etc nearby needs and ask for that?

then just pass it on..

presume in charity's you tried the alternative gift catalogue?

http://www.musthavegifts.org/Default.aspx

[belladonna-9.livejournal.com]

Well I think you are doing a wondeful job and I suggest you ignore the inlaws and just let them do their own thing .... some people need to be centre of attention and like a naughty child or dog... they will do this by playing up... its your wedding remain calm and serene and let them get on with their little performance....

[ninneviane.livejournal.com]

Wow, I've missed so many posts - hate the way LJ randomly obmits posts from my friends page...jo_kats never show up at all :/

I can understand why this is narking you hun - in fact I think it's bloody rude of people. This reminds me of the kettle incident :/

Apparently there are things in our house that aren't as good as they should be,
Like what??? See I've been in your house and I'm struggling to think of things myself. And it's not their house anyway - they're not living there and if you guys are happy what's it to them **grrrrr**

But seriously, I'm at a loss here.
I don't know what to suggest hun - I'd be stuck myself.

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the support, babe - I thought I was going nuts. There really isn't anything wrong with any of our goods - they're not showroom standard, but they're not exactly squalid, either. Really the idea of replacing them makes me furious with thiking of the waste of resources and plain spoiledness of it all.

[ninneviane.livejournal.com]

I'd be exactly the same. It's not as though I don't like new stuff, because I do, but if something I have isn't broken it doesn't get replaced whether I was buying it myself or being bought it by someone else. My toaster is rank, I hate it, the top has started to melt and being white, and having kids, it looks perpetually grotty, but while it is still popping up perfect toast I can not bring myself to buy a new one even though it makes me cringe when anyone but family views it! You stick to your guns hun - was I right in thinking you had gardening vouchers? That would have been my only useful suggestion really. I think the Amazon voucher was the best one though, let people pool into a big purchase for something that you really quite fancied.