Books: Attached - Amir Levine
Apr. 4th, 2019 02:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
cybermuleI've been trying to read a copy of this for years, and finally got this through Inter Library Loans.
I think I've read a lot about this on the internet, and I'm not sure how much more the book added to that. If it's not a subject you've read a lot about, then this is a really good introduction, and there are worked examples to look at. It's interesting. It tends to focus on either anxious or avoidant attachment styles, and how they can become secure. It seemed quite down on the avoidant attachment style which is, I guess, because they're difficult to help. I found this focus didn't really help me learn a lot from the book as there's also hypothesised a mixed attachment style often developed by children who've gone through trauma.
It was interesting reading this around the time I read several articles on non-monogamy, promoting it as a way of building tribe, rather than the more hip portrayal as a route to self discovery. It challenged my ideas of what relationships are for, suggesting that people are supposed to be there and look after you, rather than everyone be aimed at their own self-actualisation.
I don't know how I feel about that really. Probably see above re mixed attachment styles. But it's worth pondering over.
I think I've read a lot about this on the internet, and I'm not sure how much more the book added to that. If it's not a subject you've read a lot about, then this is a really good introduction, and there are worked examples to look at. It's interesting. It tends to focus on either anxious or avoidant attachment styles, and how they can become secure. It seemed quite down on the avoidant attachment style which is, I guess, because they're difficult to help. I found this focus didn't really help me learn a lot from the book as there's also hypothesised a mixed attachment style often developed by children who've gone through trauma.
It was interesting reading this around the time I read several articles on non-monogamy, promoting it as a way of building tribe, rather than the more hip portrayal as a route to self discovery. It challenged my ideas of what relationships are for, suggesting that people are supposed to be there and look after you, rather than everyone be aimed at their own self-actualisation.
I don't know how I feel about that really. Probably see above re mixed attachment styles. But it's worth pondering over.
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Date: 2019-05-09 05:18 pm (UTC)