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21st century schizoid han
Sep. 20th, 2008 08:58 pmIs there something wrong with me, that I'm not really that interested in social relationships? Don't get me wrong - I have several good close friends and I have great times with them, with my colleagues and with other relationships such as LJ-land. Each appropriate (in my mind) to my outer and inner context. But I have no interest in shilly-shallying around, meta-relationshipping and just generally pandering to a load of super-sensitive social rules and needs.
Often I wonder if I'm borderline autistic, schizoidal, or just plain nasty. An example - a close friedn is organising a birthday bash, so emails about 10 people for a list of available dates. We all supply dates, freeing up various theoretical slots to be as helpful as possible. Then said friend decides she'll hold it on one particular date because that's the only one when the friend who suggested the birthday bash is free.
I mean, what's the fucking point? Why not just say that you'll have your birthday bash on X date. And if anyone asks if there's an alternative, explain that it's the only date one particular friend is free. That's fine, in my book, and less of a total waste of my time.
Ditto to my friend who sets up numerous dates and always cancels at the last minute. Plus my brother (as usual) who can't set an alarm clock to get up a particular time so also cancels at the last minute. I don't actually care that these dates don't happen all that much - would have been nice to see y'all, but I'm plenty happy on my own these days.
Just stop wasting my precious time. Speak your mind, don't shilly-shally, and stop subscribing to all the social angsting and fannying around that seems to be so prevalent these days.
Rant over.
Often I wonder if I'm borderline autistic, schizoidal, or just plain nasty. An example - a close friedn is organising a birthday bash, so emails about 10 people for a list of available dates. We all supply dates, freeing up various theoretical slots to be as helpful as possible. Then said friend decides she'll hold it on one particular date because that's the only one when the friend who suggested the birthday bash is free.
I mean, what's the fucking point? Why not just say that you'll have your birthday bash on X date. And if anyone asks if there's an alternative, explain that it's the only date one particular friend is free. That's fine, in my book, and less of a total waste of my time.
Ditto to my friend who sets up numerous dates and always cancels at the last minute. Plus my brother (as usual) who can't set an alarm clock to get up a particular time so also cancels at the last minute. I don't actually care that these dates don't happen all that much - would have been nice to see y'all, but I'm plenty happy on my own these days.
Just stop wasting my precious time. Speak your mind, don't shilly-shally, and stop subscribing to all the social angsting and fannying around that seems to be so prevalent these days.
Rant over.
