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cybermuleThe mother-in-law is unhappy. Going via our lack of wardrobes and superabundance of matrimonial druids, she re-visited on the subject of the sprog's surname. Which is not 0ct0pus' surname, but mine. Like my surname is mine. He started that way, and he might as well stay that way as far as we're concerned, especially as (a) 0ct0pus isn't bothered and (b) 0ct0pus' surname is hard to spell.
She phoned 0ct0pus up last night to have aa big long shout about it. And how it keeps her awake at night, causes everyone to laugh at her, and will be a barrier between us all for the rest of our lives. In a lot of ways I just don't care one way or the other. But I do not like paying Danes gold. And more importantly at this point, I think lying awake at night thinking people are laughing at you because of something like this is actually a textbook sign of mental illness.
Put aside the fact that I think she's just looking for a reason to marginalise my son, and I think she just needs help. Or is manipulative to the point of needing help. And either way, I don't really want to give in.
Meh.
She phoned 0ct0pus up last night to have aa big long shout about it. And how it keeps her awake at night, causes everyone to laugh at her, and will be a barrier between us all for the rest of our lives. In a lot of ways I just don't care one way or the other. But I do not like paying Danes gold. And more importantly at this point, I think lying awake at night thinking people are laughing at you because of something like this is actually a textbook sign of mental illness.
Put aside the fact that I think she's just looking for a reason to marginalise my son, and I think she just needs help. Or is manipulative to the point of needing help. And either way, I don't really want to give in.
Meh.
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Date: 2009-05-28 02:37 pm (UTC)Then she can't complain cause it won't be a barrier, but she will have lost in the entertaining way ;)
and DK would never have to spell kernahnon.. kenanhan.. kernahon.. (gives up) down the phone again. Of cause would have to stop calling him Dk then....
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Date: 2009-05-28 03:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-05-28 03:47 pm (UTC)As someone who has a different surname to the rest of my family (Mum remarried)... it's not a big deal... causes confusion occasionally... the only major difficulty we had with it was when Dad got transfered to Saudi & had to prove I was his dependant but that's pretty much a rare occurance, not one you're likely to face!
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Date: 2009-05-28 03:13 pm (UTC)Wow, does she not have better things to worry about? If that is her biggest concern in life (and it seems like it must trouble her greatly--after all, it keeps her up at night and she's ridiculed for it), then her life must be pretty good!
That is one of the silliest things I have heard! "People laugh at me because my grandson has a different last name." Yeah, I really think that happens! *rolls eyes*
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Date: 2009-05-28 03:28 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-05-28 04:47 pm (UTC)O RLY?! She could choose to let her resentment go. Then she'd probably sleep better! ;^)
causes everyone to laugh at her,
Maybe she needs to get some new friends then! I think it's a silly reason to laugh at anyone else. And actually, that wouldn't be the reason I'd laugh at her. I'd be thinking: this is a silly thing to get so worked up about!
and will be a barrier between us all for the rest of our lives.
I read this and I think: only if she makes it into a barrier! I mean, in the great scheme of things, she chooses something like that obsess over?! I share your "meh". I'm very unimpressed by her reaction.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this.
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Date: 2009-05-29 06:20 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-05-29 04:09 pm (UTC)MILs are sent to try us. They're all quite bonkers when the world doesn't fit into their ideals.
*sighs* Deep breath, arms length..