Time to block it out :-)

[cybermule]

The first positive thing I'm going to do today is block someone's email address. Someone's pulling my strings online. Like I need a parental replacement to tell me how crap I am! So instead of just taking their negativity on myself and struggling not to believe their unpleasant accusations, I'm just going to block the address. Full stop. End of story.

Repeat to self: I am not shallow, hedonistic, ugly, hysterical or stupid :P

LATE UPDATE: 1100 words down on virtual paper for my essay. I'm sure you're all really interested ;)

Comments

[toxicpixie.livejournal.com]

Repeat to self: I am not shallow, hedonistic, ugly, hysterical or stupid :P

Well, in the brief time I've known you you havnt struck me as any of the above!

Nathan, The Toxic Pixie

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Thanks :) I was wary of doing one of those "affirm my goodness" posts, so as the compliment was unsought it was all the nicer :)

I was trying to resolve the personality clash nicely, but it was starting to get me down so I feel a whole lot better for just dropping it :)

[toxicpixie.livejournal.com]

Its usually easier just to ignore them.

Block Sender is your friend...

Nathan, The Toxic Pixie

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

Let's all sing it together :)

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Heheh - sing which bit? repeat to self etc. or how many words I've done of my essay?

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

Repeat to self, unless you fancy rapping your essay? :)

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Believe me - nobody wants to hear that :) The "repeat to self" is a useful affirmation that we should all use. Too many perfectly decent people go around thinking they're crap for no good reason. And too many perfectly crap people go around thinking they're decent, also for no good reason.

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

Well it's very easy to feel lousy when everyone appears to get all the love and affection when you're out.

I get ignored for some reason, I'm not a mind reader so I can't really tell what people are really thinking.

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Hmmm - do you think you're an introvert or an extravert? Introverts have a much harder time socialising, as they feel stronger connections with just a few people. Plus, they're often surrounded by extraverts who are all so busy gabbing to so many people that they fail to notice the quiet, deep types.

FWIW, you seem to deserve just as much affection as anyone else. You definitely fall into my first category (a decent person being forced into thinking they're crap). I have a lot of sympathy :)

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

Introvert I'm sure, it's not like I can't have a good conversation with people. It just seems that some people have a quick 5 minute chat then bugger off.

I'm not socially inept, although I'm better when drunk. I can be loud but more often I'm quiet.

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Yes - you definitely sound like an introvert. I spent a while looking at personality typing, and in a lot of systems there is more to it than just introversion. But it is a big factor in having difficulties socialising - you and I are looking for a few people to connect with on a night out, whereas there are all those extraverts bouncing around trying to say hi to as many people as possible.

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

I've done the bouncing around thing, but only with people I know anyway.

It takes a bit of nerve for me to talk to complete strangers sometimes, especially woman.

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Yeah - interactions with the opposite sex are always scary :( I've forced myself to practice by wibbling at strangers, but it doesn't really kick in when it actually matters :P

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

I've usually waited to be chatted up, the pressure is on the other person then. That only usually happens once a year if that.

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Yeah - the whole dating thing is a bit weird, and a bit stacked against men. I never notice when I'm being chatted up anyway *shrugs*

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

I can tell when I'm being chatted up, the person normally talks to just you for quite a while :)

But then I don't get chatted up much, I usually get the "my friend likes you" followed by the invitation to come and talk to them. Funny thing is the other person is often someone I hadn't even noticed due to them sitting down etc..

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

I can tell when I'm being chatted up, the person normally talks to just you for quite a while :)

Heheh - might work for you, but I don't seriously believe for a moment that everyone who talks to me for ages is chatting me up :P

The "my friend likes you" approach reminds me of school *grins*

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

Indeed, but I would sooner have "my friend likes you" every weekend than none at all. I've had two relationships after such an occurances.

[apel.livejournal.com]

Good for you. Just because somebody can hit a submit button doesn't mean you have to deal with their BS. Plonking is empowering. :-)

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

Trouble is if you plonk people you are a plonker hehe :)

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Apel :) I'm getting better at dealing with things like that, but I still have the tendency to soak up other people's opinions of me like a sponge if they go on long enough. It was getting me down, but I most definitely feel empowered.

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

You don't need people like that in your life, problem is it's a lot easier to believe criticism than compliments :/

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

problem is it's a lot easier to believe criticism than compliments :/

This is a subject that totally fascinates me - some people are naturally confident, believe compliments and go around thinking they're great. A few people are "true neutrals" and don't really take much notice of anything, and the rest of us tend to believe the worst. I've spent a long time learning about psychology and personality type, but I often think it must be down to something in our upbringing.

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

It's down to self image sometimes. If you think you're gods gift then compliments will just reinforce that. If you don't think you are then criticism will reinforce that.

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Mmm - I definitely agree with you on the self-image bit. I guess I was just wondering about all the factors that influence our self-image as we grow up...

[papalazarous.livejournal.com]

Put it this way school can be a big popularity contest sometimes. You had all the hard case popular types, I'm sure the teachers noticed these types when it came to sport since they would often be the captain of the team and would select the team. I often found myself close to being the last picked, probably since I was never into football.

[cybermule.livejournal.com]

Yes - that makes sense, as it was when I started school that I noticed that I was "a bit weird" or "didn't fit in". And I guess at that age you're still impressionable and forming your character.

And yeah, I was always picked last for netball teams :P School sport was so dull.